What is forgiveness? I think of forgiveness as starting within. Whether we receive an apology or not, we can choose to forgive. Forgiving others for hurting us does not mean we forget what happened. We cannot change the past. Forgiving others does not mean we stay in an unhealthy situation. We can forgive and at the same time decide that the hurt was so big we must let that person or situation go. Forgiving others does not mean we are saying “It is okay that you hurt me.” And it certainly does not erase the hurt.
Choosing forgiveness is more about the person forgiving than the person asking for forgiveness. If we practice forgiveness with ourselves and with others on a daily basis, we make room in our hearts for more love, more compassion and yes, more forgiveness.